Moving on, even with your fears is BRAVE.


We all have them. Some of them are pleasant, some, not so much. Sometimes things happen to us which make our feelings not work properly, and they can overwhelm us. Sometimes we fear feelings more than we fear what triggers them. We grow and find out we can handle life better than we ever could, and we get brave and venture out where we never would’ve let ourselves. But then, we feel, and it’s not the circumstances, but those feelings which have us bound in the dark, running from shadows, doubting our strength and our sanity.

But you are not broken because you feel. You are human. Anyone who can feel is doing it right, is going to be okay.

There is a saying, “Do it scared”. Sometimes we confuse anticipation and excitement for anxiety and fear. This can happen if our heart has been damaged in the past. But we can grow in understanding how to trust our gut and intuition to keep us safe, instead of our emotional responses and triggers.

In fact, to step fully into our feminine energy and power, we must come to understand and trust our gut and intuition. If you’ve been taught to distrust your inner voice, your gut feelings, you need a new teacher, and a big stick to teach that last one a lesson.

Just kidding.

Feelings are not a flaw, or a weakness. Your feelings are a minivan of frightened babies, and you’re in the drivers seat. All those poor little feelings want to do is go home, take a warm bath, get a full tummy and go to bed. And there will be time for that. But this minivan is going places. You have dreams to chase. You have a purpose to fulfil. You have no time to waste. Get back there and give all those baby feelings a big hug, then strap them in and tell them to sit tight. We have places to go, my lovelies, and everything is going to be all right. You’ve got this.

Yes, you do.

So, are you ready?

So, get your foot on the gas and this puppy into gear, and hit the road, sweetheart. I’ll be the hitch-hiker you see on the highway to your dreams, the one with the dreadlocks and the great big smile. I’ll understand if you don’t have time to slow down and pick me up as your minivan hurtles along.

I’ll see you there xxxx

The BRAVEST thing you’ve ever done.

Leaving a church family is incredibly hard. It can be one of the most life-impacting decisions you’ll ever make.

So many emotions. Guilt. Shame. Isolation. Fear of the future.

And yet, something led you here, to this new place. Something that stirs inside you even now. You’ve been told you’re simply in a “wilderness phase”, but you’re not so sure. That part of you that led you here, leads you still.

And while you are certainly afraid, you know you are headed in the right direction. This feels right somehow. This feels….true.

There…right there. That place the still small voice is coming from, the one that speaks courage and life and hope to you, that feels like a compass needle? That’s the place you’ll be living from, from now on.

It’s your gut, and it’s God-given. You have a good gut.

In fact, despite all you’ve been told, especially recently in light of what you’ve had to do, you are good.

Yes, you are.

You’re gifted, and you’re a gift. You have everything you need right now to move forward. It’s all within you now, and it’s great stuff.

And you are ok, you’re enough. You are wrapped in grace, enfolded in mercy, bathed in acceptance. You are okay. And everything is going to be okay.

There may be a time and a place when and where you’re ready to return to that path. Maybe. But in the meantime. Look up. Look around you. This may seem like a foreboding, dangerous place. But your isolation is an illusion. You are not alone, not at all. There are others ready and willing to journey with you now, and for the long haul. There are lessons for you to learn, about yourself, about God. And there are tools you can make, find, perfect and hone which can come the distance with you, for your whole life, to make sure you never find yourself spiritually abandoned or abused ever again.

This is not the end. This is the beginning.

And I’m ready to walk with you. And a new, supportive community of friends and teachers are looking for you. Waiting for you.

Courage, BRAVE one.

BRAVE is an online course designed for women who have left the mainstream Christian church and who wish to re-orientate their faith and spiritual practice to be both self-determining and spirit led.

The next BRAVE course kicks off 20th October, and applications are being taken now with limited places available.

I’d love to answer any questions you have or chat with you about BRAVE. You can click through to the BRAVE info page below or else contact me (Jo Hilder) at

Can’t wait to meet you, dear BRAVE one!