The body conversation.
Self-acceptance or other-acceptance?
Self-acceptance is the one kind you don’t have to bargain for.
The body conversation which is asks, “Why do consumers only want *those* kinds of bodies? Why can’t they want my body too?” is a misguided conversation.
It doesn’t matter if “they” like or accept or love or want your body.
It only matters if you do.
The better conversation about bodies is the one where we address exactly who it is we imagine has to approve of, desire, view and dictate to us about our bodies. It’s the conversation about body consumption, not body image or appearance.
If you put your “real” woman’s body out on show, next to the “other” woman’s body, and argue about perfection, ideals and who is the real woman, you’ve taken the side of those who see bodies as a commodity. You’ve taken a side against other women and their bodies. You’ve become the viewer of your body, rather than the owner and inhabitant.
Don’t let the market and the marketeers dictate the body conversation.
We with women’s bodies dictate it.
You dictate that conversation.
Don’t take your beautiful, strong, fragile, perfect body out on the battleground or the marketplace and allow it to be hustled, argued over, scorned, or lauded as if it were you.
Your body is a temple. Make it a place of serenity, respect and contemplation. Make it a place of joy, not war.
Your body is a sacred space, a place of peace. It is not to be bought or sold. It is not for judging or fighting over. It’s the place on earth where the eternal makes its home.
Your body is not your brave, not your cause, not your weapon. It’s your safe place. Your home.
You don’t worship the temple. You worship in the temple.
Come home to your body. It waits for you to come home.