You don’t need permission.
You don’t need permission to leave the tribe. Any more than you needed permission to go there in the first place.
You don’t need permission to stay home, or to go out.
You don’t need permission to start a book, a relationship, a church, a retreat, a family, or all kinds of trouble.
No permission required to have coffee with two friends and call it church, or family, or trouble…with a capital T.
No permission required to invite some people around to your house for some company, a bible study, a BBQ, or to break bread.
No permission required to not participate or subscribe to their ideas, or their issues.
You don’t need anyone’s okay to read what you want, anyway you want you want to read it.
You don’t need to ask permission to not read what you don’t want to read. Ever. At all.
You don’t need permission to live a big life, to do a heap of stuff, or achieve a great deal. You don’t need anyone’s blessing to make a lot of money, or give your money away.
You don’t need to ask anyone if it’s okay to life a quiet life and do not much, be public and say God is in it, or be invisible and say God is in that. Just do whatever the hell you like about that, my friend.
You don’t need to ask permission to hang out with people who are not part of the tribe, to go to their places, or be involved in their gatherings. Just do it.
Here’s some more stuff you don’t need permission for. Writing. Speaking. Sharing. Singing. Selling things. Buying things. Promoting things. Creating things. No permission required. No blessing or benediction. If it’s in you, get it the hell out.
Publish your stuff, show it, teach it, share it in a public place for all to see of you want to. Don’t feel you need to check with anyone first, especially people from the tribe.
You don’t need permission to read certain books. You don’t need anyone’s okay to read books about spiritual things and spiritual ideas that are not tribe dogma or doctrine.
Don’t seek their permission to buy a house, or move out of the area. Don’t ask their permission to have a kid, or to not get married and not have any kids. Don’t seek permission to be involved in stuff that moves your heart. Especially don’t ask permission to study or learn.
You don’t need permission to live with someone, have sex with them, and not marry them. You don’t need permission to date, get engaged, or break up.
You don’t need permission to leave a person who is abusing you.
You don’t need permission to get a job which means you have to work on Sundays.
You don’t need anyone’s permission to do these things. You’re not free from the consequences of any of them, but you’re totally free to choose any of these, and a hell of a lot more, without checking with anyone from your tribe, an invisible man in the sky, a monster under the bed, or anyone else.
You don’t need permission.
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